We really do live in a disrespectful society. Just last night, at the MTV VMAs, yet another incident of disrespect in a public forum. Kanye West, rapper, jumped up on the stage, took the mike from VMA Female Best Video award winner, Taylor Swift, and interrupted her acceptance speech to praise Beyonce.
I did not watch the VMAs last night. We watched the series finale of King of the Hill and season finale of True Blood instead. Honestly, I didn’t even know the VMAs were on last night because I really am that much out of the loop in pop culture these days. However, it was all over Twitter last night about poor Taylor Swift and what a jerk Kanye is (twitterer’s words, not mine). I didn’t actually see the video clip until just a little bit ago although I had been able to find out what had happened (love twitter!!).
Come on, people, have a little respect! Yes, Beyonce is a very talented singer and I’m sure there are people out there (other than Kanye West) who thinks she should have won the award, but she didn’t. That doesn’t give ANYONE the right, though, to jump up on stage and take away that special moment of earning an award and having the opportunity to say thank you.
I do remember something similar happening several years back with someone from the Wu-Tang Clan jumping up on stage. I kinda thought that the repercussions of something like that would carry on, but apparently not.
Back to the video clip that I saw today. The expression and body language of Taylor Swift after Kanye West gave her the mike back was devastating. She was so excited to have won something from the VMA’s as a country singer (and her “thank you” speech reflected that) and, I’m sure, as a nineteen year old. What teenager these days wouldn’t want to win a VMA? But then to have that special moment, that she would have remembered with joy for the rest of her life, be sullied by someone in such a disrespectful way, it’s just so sad. My heart was breaking for her.
Yes, Kanye West apologized on his blog (but it’s my opinion that it’s a backwards apology) after the fact, just as Rep. Joe Wilson SC-R did, but there is an even deeper message to be learned from all this, even more so than having respect for others.
Once you say something, it’s out there. There’s no “taking it back,” no matter what you might say or do in the way of apologies. Words are so much more powerful than you might realize. It’s like trying to get toothpaste back in the tube or smooth out a picture that has been balled up. There’s just no going back. Once you put it out there, it’s out there.
Remember that as you interact with people today. Make sure your filter is in place because once you say or do something, you can’t take it back.